Dear Heather
What if the key to changing the world starts with understanding ourselves?
Welcome to Dear Heather — the podcast where mental health meets consciousness, neuroscience meets spirituality, and raw human experience meets real solutions. Hosted by Heather, a mental health advocate, super feeler, and someone who has walked through the fire of depression, anxiety, and devastating loss, this show exists for one reason: to bring awareness to the things that are breaking us and start building what will actually heal us.
Each episode is a deep dive into the full spectrum of what it means to be human — from the neuroscience of rewiring your brain and the power of neuroplasticity to the mystery of angel numbers, synchronicity, and collective consciousness. From the epidemic of youth mental health and men’s mental health to the broken systems failing the people who need them most.
From quantum physics and Schumann resonance to the quiet, radical act of learning to love yourself.
This is not surface-level self-help. This is alchemy — transforming pain into purpose, suffering into awareness, and silence into conversation.
Here’s what you can expect: real interviews with mental health professionals, neuroscientists, healers, and everyday humans who have survived the darkest of days and found their way back to the light. Every episode carries an educational element — because understanding the root cause of our suffering is the first step to ending it. We confront what isn’t working — the healthcare systems, the stigma, the disconnection — and we start talking about what will.
Dear Heather was born from personal experience. Heather is one of five brothers’ sister who lost a brother to mental illness. She has navigated her own battles with depression and anxiety for most of her life. She knows what it feels like to carry the weight of the world because you can feel everything — and she turned that into a mission: if the suffering of others hurts you, then help dismantle what’s causing it.
Whether you are on a healing journey, seeking change, or simply curious about why the world feels the way it does right now, this podcast will meet you where you are. We explore the spiritual and the scientific — yoga, meditation, and frequency healing alongside trauma recovery, emotional regulation, and the psychology of empathy. We talk about the woo-woo and the clinical. The 5D and the everyday. The mystical and the deeply practical.
Because mental illness is an epidemic. And what we’ve been doing isn’t working. So let’s get to the root of it — together.
New episodes bring fresh perspectives on consciousness, self-awareness, personal growth, suicide prevention, neurodivergence, mindfulness, holistic wellness, and the radical power of human connection. Dear Heather is more than a podcast. It’s a movement — starting with Dear Neighbor and expanding into every corner where people are suffering in silence.
Subscribe now and join a community of super feelers, seekers, and change-makers who believe the world can be different. Because it can. And it starts with a conversation.
Let’s change the world one discussion at a time.
Dear Heather
If It's Not Bipolar, What Exactly Is It?
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In this compelling episode, Heather Godby unpacks the complexities of experiences often mistakenly labeled as bipolar disorder. She shares her personal journey as a creative individual navigating ADHD and ambivert traits, explaining how these aspects contribute to intense highs and lows, bursts of energy, and periods of withdrawal. This discussion provides a vital distinction between natural personality wiring and clinical mental health conditions, encouraging a deeper understanding of self. Join Heather as she explores the intricate interplay of creativity, neurodiversity, and temperament, offering a refreshing perspective for anyone who has felt misunderstood.
What You'll Learn:
- The critical differences between natural mood fluctuations and bipolar disorder.
- How creative peaks and valleys can be misinterpreted.
- The impact of ADHD on routine and the need for novelty.
- Understanding the ambivert's need for both social interaction and solitude.
- How to embrace your unique psychological wiring without mislabeling yourself.
Embrace your unique wiring and recognize that complexity is a beautiful thing.
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If it's not bipolar, then what exactly is it? If I'm not bipolar, then what is all of this? Because from the outside, I completely get it. I can look a little manic or a lot manic. I have these really high highs, and at times can have these really low lows. Sometimes it comes out as a burst of energy, and then I can completely disappear. It's not lost on me that it can look super confusing, chaotic, even, trust me. I get it. Here's the thing that most people get confused about, though. That doesn't automatically mean bipolar. So I'm sure you can already guess by now where I'm taking this. I'm absolutely going to talk about what bipolar actually is and what it just is not. And we're people like me who live as a creative with ADHD, also as an ambivert, can come across as, well, bipolar. So am I actually bipolar? You guys, I've had to ask myself this question more than once. Am I bipolar? Because honestly, honestly, there are seasons where I feel so incredibly high. What that means is that I am full of ideas, energy through the roof. I'm creating, I'm posting, talking a lot, connecting a lot. And then there are seasons where I feel really, really low. It's like a slow, heavy emotional burden. And at that point, it's safe to say I'm feeling things quite deeply, really deeply. So again, of course, I've thought, okay, this is for sure bipolar. But when I really looked into bipolar and what that means, I realized something. It's a real mental health condition where people have actual episodes of mania or hypomania and depression mixed in there that lasts for days, weeks even. And they can't just say, all right, I'm done, I'm over it now. It's not a mood you snap out of. It's more like their brain is in a storm and they can't control the weather. They have no idea when the lows will ever end or when their highs will have reached their peak. So once I understood that, that's really that's when I really step back. I'd really look at my patterns and ask myself what's actually causing my highs and my lows? How much control do I really have over that? And can I shift gears if I absolutely have to? And of course, the million-dollar question again, you're gonna hear me say this or ask this. Am I bipolar? And that's where I started to see what I'm experiencing is not bipolar at all. It's the mix of being highly creative, having ADHD and my own personality, wiring as an ambivert on top of it. I mean, that's like a masterpiece of disaster. So now let's talk about the creative ups and downs that I experience as a creative. If you identify as one or you think you might be one, you're going to recognize this. You have ups and you have downs, you have waves, literal waves. You have seasons where ideas rush through you. You like a literal river, I guess. You can't write them down fast enough. And that alone feels like a high. And then you have seasons where you're like, oh my gosh, I feel empty. Where did that spark go? And it's a devastating feeling when it disappears. Okay, for example, it's a lot like writers when they have writers' block. You don't just sit down and go, okay, creativity, let's go. Sometimes it's hitting you randomly late at night, sometimes in the shower, sometimes in the car. And it feels really good when it's happening. It's refreshing for me at least. And then there are those other times where you have absolutely nothing. And when you try to force it, it feels fake. It feels off, it just feels fake. And I believe your audience, whoever that is, can feel that. Personally, I struggle with social media. So let's talk about that. From the outside, my social media can look like it's always fun, always flowing, always easy. Like, wow, Heather's always on. She's having so much fun. She's always talking, always creating. But that's not even close to the full picture. Sometimes I have to completely disappear. It's not because I don't care or I want to, but my creative energy has completely gone quiet. And I literally cannot create from an honest place when I'm in that moment of just nothingness. Forcing it will never ever be worth it to me. A perfect example is actually today. I had a totally different series planned for today. I shared my agenda and outline days ago with the studio team. And then, of course, I changed it last minute. I didn't know I would change it last minute. I had no intention of changing it last minute. I know that to people counting on me, that can look really freaking freaky. But for me, it's not about not caring, it's about needing to create from that organic space what is real and alive in me right in that moment. If I force it just because it was on the calendar, yeah, it may look more organized to everybody else, but it won't be honest. And I will end up hating it. I will end up hating it. So here's attention with social media. I need to stay active to grow my social accounts. It's not for ego, but yes, I'm a human being. Attention feels great, but because I have bigger purposes, growth is absolutely essential. I mean, my tagline is literally let's change the world one discussion at a time. That's a full-blown mission. And how can I complete that mission if I don't have support? If I'm not showing up on these platforms all the time. But I refuse to create just to feed the algorithm. I'm not going to post just to post. Creativity is not a light switch, and I will not treat it like that. If I lose my authenticity, that will break me. That's the cost of being real and not forcing it. I'll lose out on the follows, I'll lose out on the likes. Now let's talk ambert. It's not an introvert, and it's definitely not an extrovert. It's actually both. And for the longest time I thought I was an introvert, and for the longest time I thought I was an extrovert. If I'm around people for a while, I will crash. I need to go home. I need to close the door, turn the lights off, and talk to no one except my son. And I need that serious recharge time. Introverts will know this. But then I also started noticing something else. Like I need to be around people too. I love deep conversations. I love connection. I love going out and I love connecting. So I didn't fully fit introvert and I didn't fully fit extrovert. So then I was like, well, what is this? Then I found out that there's actually a word for that middle space, which is ambivert. And ambervert is basically a mix of both. So you can feel very extrovert in the right environment, social, talkative, energized by people, but then you also absolutely need that introvert side, the quiet, alone time to reset. You are undoubtedly going to crash out if you don't reset, at least for me. So that's exactly where I live. I can go out, be social, be animated, give you a hundred per 110% of my energy, and I need to go completely off grid to recover. And that exact pattern shows up with creativity too. I go into the world online or offline, pour out energy, create, I share, I talk, I hold that space. Then I need to pull back into my cave and shut everything down just for a while until I recharge. I understand from the outside that that can look perhaps like mood swingy, but it's not that dramatic, you guys. I promise. It's just how my system regulates itself. And that was a really important and pivotal realization for me. And now let's talk about ADHD. Let's just throw that into the mix because why not? We're talking about all of it, anyways. I feel like we live in a society where everyone identifies as ADHD. People, though, with ADHD often will one crave stimulation and novelty. They get bored really fast. They start projects with a ton of energy, and then they can drop them in, well, the drop of a hat. Accidentally, they can accidentally sabotage their own routine because the structure suddenly makes them feel just like trapped. For me personally, it can look like this. I'll really get into a routine or project for a while. I'm locked in, I'm showing up, I'm consistent, and then out of nowhere, my brain just rejects it. I get bored, I get rest rest, I get restless, and then I start avoiding the very thing that I said I was committed to. From the outside, that can look unstable or even a little bipolar. But on the inside, it doesn't feel like a mood episode. It feels like my ADHD brain is just screaming out loud, like, I need novelty, I need something different. And it pushes me to blow up my own patterns and progress. It's so freaking annoying. ADHD is not fun, you guys. So from the outside, I'm sure that looks wild. You're up, you're down, you're obsessed with your work, then you're completely ignoring it. And then you just disappear. If you are watching from the outside, it can look manic. I'm sure it can even look bipolar. But for a lot of us, it's actually just simply ADHD. And then add that in with having a creative brain. Like, what? There is some control in there though, I promise. If something really matters to me, a deadline, a person I deeply care about, or a crisis, I will make damn sure I pull it together for you. Even if it costs me later, like there's no doubt about that. And usually my swings are tied to either boredom or overstimulation or focus issues. It's not a full-on mood episode, though, that will literally take my life over for days or even weeks. That's bipolar disorder. That's what that is. So let's go back to the beginning. If it's not bipolar, then what is it? Like I said from the outside, someone like me can look very confusing. You might see high energy, then low energy, like bursts of content and creativity, then complete silence, super social one minute and present one minute, then suddenly off the grid completely. And total focus and drive, then distracted and checked out. Again, if you don't know the full story, you might think she's manic or she just must be bipolar. But in my case, it's not that, not even close. It's simply a creative mind that works in a very intense way. ADHD that makes routine hard and boredom like unbearable. And I'm an amber personally that needs both like the calm and the chaos. My highs and lows are very strong, yes, but I can usually trace them back to something, either a creative flow, a burnout, more than likely over stimulation, or a lot of the time just boredom. But when something means something to me, like I said, I will absolutely show up. So with bipolar disorder, those episodes are deeper, they last longer, and the person does not have the same level of control. They can't just say, okay, I'm done now. It's not a decision for them. It's like illness. So if you're ever looking at someone like me and thinking, wow, she must be bipolar, I hope that gives you another way to see it. It may be another way to see yourself too, if you can relate that is to anything that I'm talking about now. You are not too much and you are not all over the place for no reason. You're a complex human being trying to navigate a world that loves straight lines when you are clearly drawn in curves. And I think that's incredibly beautiful. Alright, you guys, that's a wrap on this one. But the conversation doesn't end here. It just can't. So here's how you become part of the movement. Share this episode with someone who needs it. Follow the show so you're always in the room when it matters. Drop a review. It's how new people find us. And tag me on social media because I want to know what you do. And what you're going to do differently because we're not just talking about shape. One episode, one conversation, one person.
